Shanah Tova

As the year 5777 comes to a close, I thank all of my readers for coming on this journey with me. Researching and writing these ideas inspire me greatly 聽for that alone it’s worth the time and effort. If these ideas do the same for even one of you, I’m even happier.

Wishing everyone a healthy, happy, prosperous and growth filled 5778.

See you next year 馃檪


Parshat Nitzavim/Vayelech

In the final run up to Rosh Hashanah, the first day of the 10 day period that determines our fate for the coming year, Jews around the world are taking stock of their spiritual growth over the last year. And the truth is, we all have our weak areas, habits we’d like to kick, practices we’d like to adopt. We want to change. We want to take that big leap.

What’s stopping us?

There are a few possible reasons. This Parshah addresses one of the biggest factors: the fear of failure. The worry that we might mess up again at some point.

Moshe Rabbeinu has now begun his final speech to the Jewish people. ” 诇讗 讗讜讻诇 注讜讚 诇爪讗转 讜诇讘讗 – I am unable to come and go” he says (讚讘专讬诐 诇状讗: 讘壮/Deuteronomy 31:2)

The Grand Rabbi of Izhbitz OBM gives a very deep explanation. Moshe was telling us: I am now stuck in one place. I cannot go up. But neither can I go down. As long as Moshe was still growing, he could have fallen at any moment. And he did. 聽Once that risk had gone for good, he knew that he had reached his goal in life. 聽Falling is a part of the process. It means that we are on the right path.

Rabbi Chatzkel Levenstien OBM compares spiritual growth to building a tower. The builder is always at risk of falling off. But even if that happens, the building he has built thus far is still standing. He just needs to climb back up and complete it!

May we all merit a year of joy, health and growth.

(Parshah idea heard from Rabbi Shimon Semp聽Click here to see his original short video)

(Special thanks to my friend Chaim Sonnenfeld for telling me Rav Chatzkel’s parable)

Parshat Ki Tavo: look at yourself!

We always knew that happiness enhances your quality of life. But did you know that not being happy is a sin?

The Torah gives us a list of curses and ends off by telling us what sins cause them.

(转讞转 讗砖专 诇讗 注讘讚转 讗转 讛’ 讗诇讜拽’讱 讘砖诪讞讛 讜讘讟讜讘 诇讘讘 诪专讘 讻诇 (讚讘专讬诐 讻”讞: 诪”讝

鈥楤ecause you did not serve Hashem, your God, amid gladness and goodness of heart, when everything was abundant鈥 (Deuteronomy chapter 26, verse 47)

According to this literal translation, the simple understanding is that G-D brought hard times upon you when He saw that we took His blessings for granted during the good times.

The Ohr Somayach has his own interpretation of the verse:

鈥楤ecause you did not serve Hashem, your God, amid gladness and goodness of heart, from seeing another person for whom everything was abundant

The problems in life come when one looks over one鈥檚 shoulder at other鈥檚 successes.

A man once came to his rabbi with a tale of woe. His business had thrived for several years. A year ago, a new competitor had opened shop nearby. Since then, the man鈥檚 sales had dropped drastically, while the new shop stole it鈥檚 success.

The rabbi looked at him and smiled. 鈥淚鈥檓 not surprised you鈥檙e doing so badly. You have your head in two businesses at once!鈥

Happiness is a state of mind that we can all get to, a choice we can all make. How? By focusing on our own blessings.

(As heard from Rabbi Chaim Rosenfeld. Hear the original lecture here)

Parshat Ki Teitzei: The enemy is NOT invincible!

Having trouble with your Evil Inclination? Read on…

It鈥檚 the month of Elul. Time for serious reflection and change. time to check that we are on the right spiritual path.

The trouble is, Hashem has given us a Yetzer Harah, an evil inclination, to try and throw us off track. And clearly the Yetzer Harah is an absolute master of his craft. Battling him can be demoralising!

Luckily, 聽Rabbi Yechezkel Abramsky聽OBM has an amazing observation from the parshah that will hopefully give us the power boost we need to deal with this threat.

The verse (Deuteronomy 21: 11) tells us that a soldier is PERMITTED to have relations with an attractive female prisoner of war. The Talmud (Kiddushin 21b) explains that the permit applies even if the woman is married.

This is an action that would normally be considered one of the three cardinal sins, which one must avoid doing even at risk of getting killed!

As an analogy, the Talmud states that even though it is considered repulsive to eat the meat of a dangerously ill animal, if he has to do so he should at least slaughter it in a manner permissible by Jewish Law. Similarly, a soldier could find the temptation of a female captive to be too strong for him. Therefore the Torah allowed him to follow his desires in this case (with certain restrictions), so that he shouldn鈥檛 come to disregard the Torah by caving in to sin.

Rabbi Abramsky expounds: If there is any proof of Hashem鈥檚 kindness and desire to see us succeed, this is it. Clearly, every obstacle that G-D puts in our path can be scaled.

The following email arrived in my inbox some time ago from, of all people, the Yetzer Harah himself (well, it could have been from him!)!

To my star pupil,聽I am writing this聽letter聽to let you know what I think of you. Up here in heaven things are not like they are down on Earth. Over there, people only know what they can see. If they see a person is “successful”, they think that he is the greatest guy. When they see somebody struggling, they think he might be one of the weaker elements.聽聽

Let me tell you something. Hashem gives every person certain abilities that nobody knows about down where you live. Some people are capable of tremendous things, while others were put there for much smaller purposes. Only Hashem in His infinite wisdom is able to give every person exactly what he needs, to reach his potential.聽 聽

I am very misunderstood. Most people hate me, and I don’t really blame them. Most people think that my job is to make sure that they fail in all aspects of Mitzvos (good deeds), and that I rejoice every time they sin. This is the furthest thing from the truth. Did you ever watch a boxing coach train his student? It is really a funny sight. The coach will put on gloves, and fight against his student. At first, he won’t hit him so hard, or throw his best punches. But, as the student gets better and better, the coach will start to fight him harder and harder. He does this so that the student will improve his skills, and become the best boxer he can be.聽

This is where it gets strange. Every time the coach knocks down the student, the student gets yelled at!! But finally, when the coach threw everything he has at his student, and not only does he withstand the beating, but he knocks the coach down, there is nobody in the world happier than the coach himself!聽This is exactly how I feel. If you fail right away, and don’t even try to fight back, I see that there is not much talent to work with, and so I take it easy on you. But if you get back up swinging, I realize that I may have a real winner here, and so I start to intensify the beating. With every level that you go up, I increase the intensity of the fight. If you finally deal me a blow that knocks me out, I will get up and embrace you and rejoice with your success.

Sometimes my job is very disappointing I see a person with a lot of potential and I start right in on him. He fights back for a while, but when the fight gets too tough, he quits and just remains on whatever level he was on. (And he usually ends up going down!) I feel like yelling at him, “Get up you fool! Do you have any idea how much more you could be accomplishing?!” But I am not allowed to do so. I just leave him alone, and go try to find another promising candidate.聽 聽If I have chosen you to be the target of my more fierce battles, it was not for no reason! You have tremendous ability! You were born into a very special family, you have Rabbeim (mentors) who really care about you, and parents who would help you grow in Torah and Mitzvos. You are a very respectful and kind person.聽 聽

I am writing to you now, because I have a very serious request to ask of you. Please don’t step fighting! Don’t give up! I have been beating too many people lately, and I am losing patience, Believe in yourself, because I would not be involved with you as much as I am if I didn’t think you could beat me. Know what your strengths are! A great Rabbi once said: “Woe is to he who doesn’t know his weaknesses. But, ‘Oy Vavoy’ (double woe) to him who doesn’t know his strengths – for he will not have anything with which to fight.”聽聽

Always remember one thing: you have a secret weapon at your disposal. I shouldn’t really be telling you – but I will anyway. Hashem himself is watching our “training” sessions very closely. I’m pleased to inform you that He’s rooting for you! If things should ever get tough, almost too tough to bear, just call out to Him with a prayer, and He will immediately come to your aid. I wish you the best of luck, and I hope that after 120 years when your time is up in that world of falsehood, you will come up here to the world of truth, where I will be waiting for you with open arms, to congratulate you on your victory, and personally escort you to your place next to the聽Throne of Glory..

Sincerely, and with great admiration I remain,


(Adapted from Sefer Lekach Tov.)


Parshas Shoftim: self-check time

8This week, Moshe Rabbeinu speaks about the recruitment process for the Jewish army. People at certain pivotal life stages- people who just got married less than a year ago, planted a new vineyard without tithing it, built a new house without consecrating it- were exempt.
The Torah has a reason: that the person might be replaced. That his wife will remarry. That another man will take over his house or vineyard. That, says Rashi, causes great anxiety to a Jewish soldier.
But why was that explanation necessary? surely the fact that he might arrive home in a coffin is reason enough!
Rabbi Shimon Schwab OBM answers that these soldiers were truly righteous men. They knew that their chances of survival were small. But they had made investments for the sake of Torah. They wanted their vineyards to be tithed, their houses to be consecrated, their children to be raised as committed Jews. Those dreams could be ruined if the wrong man takes over. That is what a Jewish soldier concerns himself with.
We all have dreams and aspirations for our homes and our possessions. But sometimes life gets in the way and distract us. 鈥楢nother man’-in the form of personal daily struggles and temptations- can easily replace the real 鈥榰s’. Now that we have entered the month of Elul, the last month of the year, we have a golden opportunity to go back to being the people we want to be. To return to Hashem.

(as heard from Rabbi Daniel Staum. View the original lecture here)

Parshas Re’eh: Beauty is in the eyes of the beholder

It’s all about perspective…


(专讗讛 讗谞讜讻讬 谞讜转谉 诇驻谞讬讻诐 讛讬讜诐 讘专讻讛 讜拽诇诇讛) ( 讚讘专讬诐 驻专拽 讬”讗 驻住讜拽 讻”讜)

鈥楽ee, I have placed before you a blessing and a curse鈥 (Deuteronomy Chapter 11 verse 26)

According to the simple understanding of the verse, Moshe Rabbeinu is laying out the consequences of the path they take. Keep the Torah and you鈥檒l enjoy a wonderful existence. Neglect it and you鈥檒l suffer.

The Dubno Maggid has his own interpretation. As usual, he brings a parable:

Scenario A:

A man was walking down the road, when he realised that he had dropped a valuable gold coin. On his way back, the man made a conscious effort to look out for it. Instead of finding one coin, he found two. The man started dancing. He couldn鈥檛 believe his good fortune.聽 鈥淭hank you Hashem鈥 he cried, 鈥淚f I hadn鈥檛 lost my coin I wouldn鈥檛 have gotten this windfall!鈥

Scenario B :

A man was walking down the road, when he realised that he had dropped a valuable gold coin. On his way back, the man made a conscious effort to look out for it. Instead of finding one coin, he found two. The man鈥檚 face fell. He couldn鈥檛 believe his bad luck. 鈥淥h no鈥 he cried, 鈥淚f I hadn鈥檛 lost my coin, I would have had three coins now!鈥

Two people. Same circumstances. Different reactions.

Moshe was teaching us that Hashem arranges events in our lives, big and small. But their status is up to us to determine. Is a late bus a nuisance or an opportunity to read more or learn more Torah? Is a bad internet connection a lost hour of work or a great opportunity to clean up your cluttered desk, or take of any other small things or your 鈥榯o do鈥 list?

Disaster or success? Loss or opportunity?

Our perspective is our choice. Let鈥檚 choose wisely.

(As heard from Rabbi Shimon Semp)

Parshas Eikev: The ‘key’ to success

Take yourself out of the picture!

(讻讬 转讗诪专 讘诇讘讘讱 专讘讬诐 讛讙讜讬诐 讛讗诇讛 诪诪谞讬 讗讬讻讛 讗讜讻诇 诇讛讜专讬砖诐. 诇讗 转讬专讗 诪讛诐 (讝, 讬”讝-讬”讞)

Perhaps you will say in your heart 鈥榯hese nations are more numerous than me, how will I be able to drive them out?鈥. 聽Do not fear them. (Deuteronomy

The Talmud in Gittin (90a) tells us that the word 鈥榢i鈥 at the beginning of the verse has four possible meanings – 鈥榬ather鈥, 鈥榖ecause鈥, 鈥榠f/when鈥 and 鈥榩erhaps鈥. My translation follows the opinion of Rashi, who explains that the verse is reassuring those who are scared of the enemy鈥檚 military superiority that Hashem will help the Jews to be victorious. Rashi actually states that none of the other four translations would fit into the context.

The Shelah has different take. In his view, 鈥榢i鈥 could mean 鈥榠f鈥 in this context. He explains that the Torah is giving us the recipe for victory. If you will have the honesty and humility to admit that you are incapable, that these nations are more numerous than us鈥, then 鈥榙o not be afraid of them鈥. Our downfall only starts when we start to believe in ourselves too much, forgetting about God鈥檚 involvement.

In our busy world, we tend to fall into the trap of believing that all we achieve in our lifetime is due solely to our efforts and talents. And while we are expected to pull our weight in here in the physical world, that in and of itself is useless. The main 鈥榢ey鈥 (excuse the pun) is our total recognition that our ultimate success comes from Above and has nothing to do with us.

(adapted from Sefer Talelei Oros)


Parshas Va鈥檈schanan: When NOT to be pious

Don’t let your growth hurt those around you!

Moshe Rabbeinu was desperate to get into the Land of Israel. So much so, that we are taught that Moshe uttered 515 prayers, begging Hashem to allow him entry, despite being banned from entering the land after hitting the rock for water instead of speaking to it. Yet the Torah quotes Moshe as saying 鈥淚 implored Hashem鈥. Rashi says that imploration is a form of prayer one uses to request something he doesn鈥檛 deserve. He goes on to say that Righteous people, Tzaddikim, never feel that they are entitled to anything Hashem grants them.
But, asks the Maharal, when Moshe later reminded the people of the shameful incident of the spies, he said that he 鈥減rayed to Hashem鈥 to have Him forgive them. Here he did used his own merits to make an argument! Why the change in approach?
The Maharal鈥檚 answer gives us incredible insight into the thought process of a Tzaddik. Moshe Rabbeinu wasn鈥檛 blowing his own trumpet in his interest, but was doing so on behalf of the people. Humility was Moshe鈥檚 trademark. To paraphrase a certain man of power (who, sadly, seems to lack this trait), no one 鈥榙id鈥 humility better than Moshe. He did not feel worthy of Hashem鈥檚 kindness, despite having a lifetime of merits under his belt. But when it came to others, Moshe used every merit he had to advocate before G-D. All humility went out the window.
In Judaism, there is a concept of not being a 鈥榩ious fool鈥. One has to know when to put his own growth out of the picture. One rabbi (I forget who) was known to rile against people who would hear others cry about their financial problems and tell them to have faith because 鈥淗ashem will help鈥. Those rich people are expected, at that moment, to keep their self-righteous faith talk to reach into their pockets and help their friend. Not lecture them!
Because true growth never comes at the expense of others!

Parshas Devarim/Shabbos Chazon: Want Redemption? Dust yourself down!

What鈥檚 the one sin that everyone is guilty of?


Not stealing

Not lying

Not lashon harah (gossiping)


Give up? The answer is (drumroll please!)鈥..Avak lashon harah- the 鈥榙ust鈥 of lashon harah鈥*, speech which aren鈥檛 derogatory in and of themselves, but are given in a derogatory fashion**. For example, if a wife were to say that her husband was 鈥渁lways out helping other people鈥, putting the stress on the 鈥渙ther鈥 and rolling her eyes, the unspoken words are obviously: but too busy for me, his wife.

鈥淗e has his door open 24/7鈥 could either mean that your neighbour opens his home to those in need, or that he parties鈥 day and night, has friends over who block your driveway, and he keeps the whole street awake at night with his parties. Again, it all depends on how it is given over.

And even those who are careful not to belittle others can let slip from time to time.


The first word of the book of Devarim is 讗诇讛, which is usually translated as 鈥榯hese鈥. We understand the beginning of the verse to say 鈥楢nd these were the words that Moshe spoke to all of the children of Israel鈥


The Megaleh Amukot understands that the word 讗诇讛 in this context is an abbreviation of the words 讘拽 砖讜谉 专注- Avak Lashon Harah. His reading is 鈥楢nd (the topic of) Avak Lashon Harah were the words that Moshe spoke to all of the children of Israel. This understanding explains why the Torah had to point out that Moshe was speaking to all of the Jews. Moshe was telling us that no one is immune to this terrible sin.


Keep in mind that this was the very beginning of Moshe鈥檚 final series of lessons, in which he would review the entire Torah with the Jews. Remarkably, he begins by talking about a concept that pertains not to matters between man and Hashem, but to interpersonal relationships. As if to say that the entire Torah is underpinned by our relationships with each other!


One of the great sages to champion this view was Hillel the Elder. The Talmud relates that on one occasion, when approached by a gentile and asked to teach him the whole Torah on one foot, Hillel famously replied 鈥淲hat you wouldn鈥檛 want done to yourself, don鈥檛 do to others. The rest is commentary鈥.


Parshas Devarim is read during the days leading up to the 9th Av, the anniversary of the destruction of both the first and second Temples. All the persecution, pain and suffering that we have endured over the last 2,000 years of exile began on that fateful day. We are taught that our current exile was brought on by our own baseless hatred for each other. And as much as we may be sick of hearing the same thing year after year, there really is no other way to show Hashem that we are ready to go home.


Once and for all, let鈥檚 put our different dress modes and outlooks firmly aside and show Hashem that we have finally learnt to respect each other. And who knows, this year the 9th Av may well become a celebrated day the likes of which the world has never seen before!


*= See Bava Basra 165a

**= As explained in Sefer Shemiras Haloshon

Parshas Maasei- Yes We Can!

Our Father believes in us. Do we?


The Jewish people had finished their travels. They were on the cusp of a new life in the Land of Israel. And so, at the beginning of Maasei, Moshe began to prepare the nation by listing to them the places they had stopped at over the last 40 years.

Rashi gives the analogy of a father who took his ill son on a journey, a quest to find a cure. When the son recovered, his father took him back the way they had come, stopping at significant points to remind his son of something that had happened to them there on their outward journey. The Bartenura explains that the Jews had been spiritually sick in Egypt. The giving of the Torah was the start of a healing process. Each stop in their 40-year trek presented a challenge which further strengthened them, until they reached the state of completion required to enter the land of Israel.

Rabbi Henoch Lebowitz聽OBM asks: isn鈥檛 reminding someone of his past misdeeds prohibited as hurtful words? Why did Moshe have to remind them of their previous failings?

Rabbi Lebowitz explains that Moshe wasn鈥檛 knocking the Jewish people. on the contrary, his words were given over in a way that empowered them. He wanted to show them just how much they had accomplished in the last 40 years, how far they had come since their days in Egypt, and how G-D Himself believed in them.

We read this Parsha during the three week period of mourning that commemorates the destructions of the first and second temples. As with any tragedy, the process of recovery can only start once we discover the root cause, when we understand where we went wrong. In this case, we are well-aware of what we need to fix. Our Rabbis have been shouting from the rooftops for 2000 years that baseless hatred brought about the exile and sustains it. Perhaps our problem is that we lack confidence in ourselves as a people. We forget how much we have achieved even in exile. The fact that in 2017, after 2000+ years of holocausts, inquisitions, pogroms and blood libels, there are still vibrant communities of Torah observant Jews around the world, especially in the Holy Land, is a testament to our resilience and steadfastness. And we can- we must! – do more. Much, much more!

Hashem believes in us. And so should we!


(As heard from Rabbi Doniel Staum.聽Access the original lecture here)